Top 10 things dads to be should know

12:0AM, Jul 15th 2009

Getting real; things you never knew you wanted to know about her pregnancy and baby body

Getty Images
1. She could get hairier
Body hair isn't your average conversation topic, so it's no wonder most dads-to-be are shocked when their partner's body begins to change in unexpected ways. Even the most open-minded men might show surprise at this, but be careful not to criticise. Many women are sensitive about their changing appearance, and the last thing they need is you making werewolf jokes. The best solution to all body changes is to enjoy them, and love them as much as possible. And if they really bother you, remember they're temporary and for a good cause.

2. She might lose hair
After the birth, some women lose hair. There isn't usually one spot where hair vanishes, but there can be an overall loss of hair. You might find her body and head hair becomes thinner. As ever, you should be tactful, and remember that it will grow back.

3. She might become short-sighted
A woman's body doesn't just make room for a baby. It changes from the cellular level upward, with the major change being a shift in hormones. This can cause a variety of eye problems during pregnancy. Any change usually resolves itself after birth, when the hormones settle down. Although some problems can be expected, you should also be aware that vision impairment could be a sign of diabetes and high blood pressure, so don't become too complacent.

4. Only one in 10 women begin labour with their 'waters' breaking
When the uterine sack breaks, don't hold your breath. We've all seen films where a woman's waters break, and before you know it the baby is sliding out with a few wheezy pushes. In the real world, it isn't such a momentous event. Sometimes it doesn't break until labour is well established, or it could break hours before labour is fully established.

5. Her breasts may leak
Most men look forward to seeing their wife with larger breasts during pregnancy. Even if you prefer the more petite look, the change can be interesting. In preparation for providing milk, however, you may find that your partner's breasts leak during the last two thirds of pregnancy. For some women this is nothing more than an occasional, T-shirt-spoiling dribble. For others, it's constant dripping. Try not to pull your face or look disgusted. Imagine if your body was changing in such dramatic ways, and be interested rather than horrified.

6. She might dislike her self-image
If all goes well, you'll love her changing body, and be enthralled with every new curve and bump. She might not be quite as pleased. It's easy for women to feel bad about stretch marks, fat and a general feeling of being pumped up. Even the most positive women might feel like this from time to time. Tell her that she's beautiful. Your words might appear to be falling on deaf ears, but they make a difference.

7. Nine months can feel like a lifetime
It doesn't sound like much time to save up money, or paint the nursery, but nine months can drag. The last month or two can be particularly slow, with both of you keen to get to the interesting bit. It can also be difficult because the pregnancy is all your friends can family talk about. She's pregnant and you're going to be a dad. Try to stay good-humoured.

8. She might not sleep well
Turning over in bed when you're fully pregnant is quite a task, and most women wake up each time. You might wake up with her, given all that movement, leaving you both tired before the baby is even born.

9. Sweet dreams
Many women dream more frequently when pregnant. Nobody is sure why, but it could be caused by hormonal changes or disturbed sleep patterns. These dreams are often particularly vivid, with imagery that suggests fertility and birth, such as forests and oceans. If your partner feels the need to tell you about her dreams in the morning, don't make the mistake of being bored by them.

10. Toilet-trotting
You know how your partner reacts first thing in the morning, when you press on her bladder for laughs? When she's pregnant the baby does that all the time, and many women feel a constant need to urinate. It's important to keep drinking, so the only solution is for her to keep going to the toilet. Don't plan too many long journeys.
comments powered by Disqus

Related articles

    • Paternity leave

      1:52PM, May 15

      Why don't more men take parental leave?

    • Giving birth can be messy, emotional, traumatic and amazing... all at once. Here's how to help your partner get ready for the rollercoaster ride that is childbirth

 
 
instagram
  • Spoilt for choice thanks to #gaiaskinnaturals. There really is something for the whole family! 
@gaia_skin_naturals #babycare

    mother and baby Spoilt for choice thanks to #gaiaskinnaturals. There really is something for the whole family! @gaia_skin_naturals #babycare

    More from the team
  • Playing dress-ups with paper dolls! Such a cute idea. Thanks #pumpkinpatch #summerroadtrip

    mother and baby Playing dress-ups with paper dolls! Such a cute idea. Thanks #pumpkinpatch #summerroadtrip

    More from the team
  • Loved seeing us on the @colessupermarkets TVC while watching The Bachelor tonight! These award winning nappies are now only $11. 2014 winners will be announced in our Oct/Nov issue on sale 2nd October. #downdown #pricesaredown #motherandbabyawards

    mother and baby Loved seeing us on the @colessupermarkets TVC while watching The Bachelor tonight! These award winning nappies are now only $11. 2014 winners will be announced in our Oct/Nov issue on sale 2nd October. #downdown #pricesaredown #motherandbabyawards

    More from the team
  • Can never get enough tips for feeding fussy toddlers!! On a winner tonight by adding finely chopped broccoli, carrot and cauliflower to spaghetti bolognese. This @babybjorn plate and spoon makes it easy for little hands to feed themselves. What advice worked for you with feeding your fussy eater??

    mother and baby Can never get enough tips for feeding fussy toddlers!! On a winner tonight by adding finely chopped broccoli, carrot and cauliflower to spaghetti bolognese. This @babybjorn plate and spoon makes it easy for little hands to feed themselves. What advice worked for you with feeding your fussy eater??

    More from the team
  • Holiday planning and have heard Fiji is great for families. Have you been?? What is it you look for when holidaying with the kids? Is it spacious accommodation? Kids clubs? Beaches/pools?

    mother and baby Holiday planning and have heard Fiji is great for families. Have you been?? What is it you look for when holidaying with the kids? Is it spacious accommodation? Kids clubs? Beaches/pools?

    More from the team
  • Our friends at @targetaustralia are calling all your cute babies to enter for the chance to be the face of baby Bonds for Target. Check out their page for details. #targetlovesbonds

    mother and baby Our friends at @targetaustralia are calling all your cute babies to enter for the chance to be the face of baby Bonds for Target. Check out their page for details. #targetlovesbonds

    More from the team
  • Happy Birthday, Snuffy!!!! Anyone else share his special day??!! @sesamestreet

    mother and baby Happy Birthday, Snuffy!!!! Anyone else share his special day??!! @sesamestreet

    More from the team
  • Big congrats to songstress Christina Aguilera (@xtina) who gave birth to a baby girl named Summer Rain!

    mother and baby Big congrats to songstress Christina Aguilera (@xtina) who gave birth to a baby girl named Summer Rain!

    More from the team
  • Join the mums club at Bounty Rewards and you could win a brand spankin' new fridge! 
Www.bountyrewards.com.au

    mother and baby Join the mums club at Bounty Rewards and you could win a brand spankin' new fridge! Www.bountyrewards.com.au

    More from the team